Story of R: Day 2

Mentoring_msnn

Did you do your assignment?

Mentoring_r

not yet, Madam. I haven’t found a blog or writing that would reflect my “dream submission” yet

Mentoring_msnn

It need not be your “dream submission.” It may be something you relate to, something you strongly disagree with, or something you are not quite sure about.

Your dream submission is likely to fluctuate over time, after all.

Mentoring_r

Well, I have a clear image of the target in my mind 🙂

Mentoring_msnn

LOL! Of course.

Mentoring_r

I have found an interview with a FLR couple that I can related to. Though I disagree with certain elements of FLR described therein I support most of the solutions employed by that couple. The link is: http://learningdd.com/blog/flr-domestic-discipline-interview/

Mentoring_msnn

Thank you. I’ll read it in a moment.

Ok. So what do you disagree with most in this article?

Mentoring_r

What I disagree with is the fact that the man is only given a monthly allowance – in my eyes he’s treated like a irresponsible child who cannot be trusted with finances.

Mentoring_msnn

Ok. But, in their FLR, he actually wanted and agreed to that.

What if they are saving for a home? If she manages most of the household finances, how would he know if they were low on cash because of a household issue, when he chose to buy something he wanted on credit? That could throw of their join personal goals.

Mentoring_r

If they both agreed this is the best way for them then I’m totally fine with it. It just wouldn’t work for me, personally. Maybe because I’m the one taking care of the finances, i.e. paying bills, etc. But I do communicate everything to my partner, so she is always aware of the current situation.

I think that communication is key here

Mentoring_msnn

*nods* That’s the key. To choose something that works for both.

What did you like best about their arrangement?

Mentoring_r

I like the clear rules and areas of control. I like the domestic discipline.

Mentoring_msnn

Ok. So let’s discuss clear rules and areas of control.

What do you like about those, in particular?

Mentoring_r

I like the fact that Gary is not viewed as a weak man, but as a strong person with submissive mindset. He is given clear responsibilities and punished when he violates them. His behaviour is evaluated so there is feedback involved. I love the sentence that “Gary is dedicated to making Kathy’s life a the dominant partner as stress-free and happy as possible”

Mentoring_msnn

Ok.

So, your assignment for tomorrow: What areas of control and clear rules do you currently have in place, if any?

What 5 areas would you like to work on for yourself and your lady? Please explain why.

I’d like you to really think about this.

Are my instructions clear?

Mentoring_r

Yes, Madam. It’s clear. Thank you. I will think about this and write my thoughts tomorrow.