Safety In The Lifestyle

I’ve written some about references, and I believe in them for certain types of play, heck, even for some sorts of relationships.

I and others write a lot about consent as well. I believe in it, and moreover, find it sexy as fuck.

We often talk about learning how to do the many things that make up this lifestyle: rope, needles, sexual safety, electric play… I believe that the more you know, the better and safer.

But NONE of these things are guaranteed to keep you safe.

None of them. Unfortunately.

I mean, we’ve been taught that if we follow the rules and learn as much as we can, we’ll be rewarded, right?

But it’s not that easy.

You need more.

The ONE thing that you can do to keep safe in this lifestyle…

Is to be emotionally healthy, so that you make good choices.