Madam. I have though about the task you gave me. My current areas of control are as follows: I take care of all the bills and finance management, I take care of the cars and all house-related technical matters. It is my job to make sure that all these run smoothly.
It is also my responsibility to vacuum-clean the apartment every week.
What I would like to work on is: cooking and discipline. I lack in both areas.
Also, I’m not that much of a romantic, so I could certainly use improvement in this area.
I should also work on patience and humility – sometimes I get angry when my partner does something what I consider sloppy or tells me to do sth, which I oppose to at first.
Quite often I react with “instant refusal” and only later on, after rethinking, I agree with my partner and do what she wants. So, that’s basically it.
Excellent. Thank you for this list.
Could you please tell me in what order you would put these, when organizing for priority?
cooking, discipline, romance, patience, and humility
My order would be: humility, discipline, patience, romance and cooking.
Ok. So, may I ask why you would like to be more romantic?
because I’m very down to earth practical in every day life. I don’t give flowers… frequently, or surprise my partner with a romantic dinner. I’m not very spontaneous in this area
What benefits do you see to becoming more romantic?
The benefits would be that my partner would feel more appreciated as a woman and thus I would feel better because I’d know that I catered to her needs more.
Have you ever done the 5 love languages with your partner?
no, Madam, I haven’t
Is that something you think she may be open to, if you present it to her as a fun project for the two of you?
It takes about 10-15 minutes.
Well, I don’t she would object to it. She is open to various psychological methods and “tricks”
thank you for the link – I will try this
Ok. I’d like you to do that with her. Tonight, if possible, but this week. That is a task, but not your task for this evening.
Please write down or save both of your results.
Let’s talk about humility.
What does humility mean to you, when you say you would like to improve upon your humility?
That one will be difficult to explain. My partner often says that I am too stubborn and relentless when she proposes some solution or action. I must admit that I often question what she tells me and object to what she proposes. It’s like she says “we’ll do this my way..” and I reply “OK, BUT….”, “I’d rather we do it may way”, etc. Even though I usually feel submissive towards her I get this “stubborn ugly head” that rises out of hiding in certain situations
Ok. I understand this. My own Pet has had this same issue. LOL!
It usually comes from being a success and independent in business and other relationships.
but I understand that this shouldn’t be so with a woman I am submissive to?
I’m not saying it’s right.
I’m saying it’s understandable, and that it is common.
I guess letting go of control is not easy.
It is not, and it is. It’s a mental place.
It is simple, but not easy.
simple but not easy – I like this 🙂
For your task this evening, I’d like you to give me three examples of you being prideful.
Tell me what happened, how you reacted, how she reacted, and how it was resolved.
I will think about it, Madam. Thank you.