Are You A Priority? Do You Really Want To Be?

The original meme didn’t have the bits about it being bullshit, of course… But it is.

Or rather, it might be.

Thing is, lots of people ARE really busy. To suggest that some people do not have more on their plate than others is denying reality.

    • Some have kids.
    • A job with long hours.
    • A dying parent.
    • Heavy volunteer efforts.
    • All of the above.

How would you feel if that amazing person gave these up for you. Honestly. In two years, when they don’t have a job, but hey, you’re their priority!

Or, when their children are neglected, but they always have time for you.

And of course, the priority list does come into play, yes. However…

If your schedules do not mesh, or if your priority to see them is not high, either, then it will not work. Also, if you need more time than they can offer, it will also not work. Not because you are not their priority, but because they just do not have enough left after their life.

And that’s OK.

Meme/quotes like that are built-in confirmation bias.

They tell you something you (the reader) want to hear, so that you can feel smug and superior.

Those that resonate with this pass it on, and “connect” with others who also pass it on, creating their bubble on group-think, all having this though:

“So-and-so is lying. They do have time. They aren’t making me a priority.”

MAYBE that’s true. Maybe it’s not. Saying it, so that you can feel justified in being angry and condescending instead of feeling hurt is not truth.

It is simply a defense mechanism to feel better.